Transformative experiences or experiences of catharsis usually happen when we we surrender, when we finally: let's roll When we let our guard down, long enough for something to happen, something unexpected for some new achievement to unfold
And, most of the time, we humans are defensive, right? We are the descendants of the most super-vigilant race of the past Those who were on high guard survived Those who were quiet were eaten There is a reason for us to be a gigantic mass of freaks by control So even if we know that all good things happen when you let your guard down: we can not help being defensive
We have to plan things, we have to survive, we have to anticipate everything – Look, I'm on Then again, The mantra becomes this whole thing of: "Dude, you have to surrender! You just gotta let it roll, man You should just dive in head first! " And the problem is: Same in love, you do not plunge headlong into love: you fall in love (fall in love) So I guess the secret to "let flow" is found in engaging experiences when you forget to remember that you need to be defensive Experiences that are fascinating enough, which sufficiently hijack your attention, that they create an eclipse in his "monkey mind" the mind that remains in armor The automatic narrative that keeps trying to make everything make sense, which tries to create coherence
See, what happens is that when you finally slip in that zone, when you fall into that falls into that unknown space When, suddenly, you notice yourself there You do not feel that happening You do not say, "Okay, now I'm going to surrender!", You know? What happens is that this is almost subconscious, has a kind of upset a type of pivoting They say that today we live in the "economy of experience", everyone is practicing "mindfulness" meditations, going on yoga retreats, trying to get in the "Eternal Now": I get it! Look: we are monetizing and making commodities with transformative experiences
Everyone wants to go to the Burning Man (collaborative festival in the Nevada desert), in renewing experiences and being able to be born again I get it But I think the set of best practices, the techniques of ecstasy, the four forces of ecstasy, psychology, technology, neurobiology, pharmacology, that we need to apply to pre-standardize these types of experiences, have to keep in mind, have to bring up, the fact that, most of us, Let's be on the defensive Unless we lubricate enough people, so that they slide into the Present So that they lower their guards without them noticing that they are lowering their guards
On the contrary, no transformation would happen